"If you truly want peace, you must disengage yourself from all conflict. You can't want someone to change or do something different. You have to want the peace and you have to disengage. Then there will be peace in every situation you encounter."
I read this today on a Facebook page entitled "The Divine Speaks". It couldn't have come at a more appropriate time in my life. God knows the difficulties I'm having in honoring my daughter's request to give her space. God knows the reason why she needs the space. Reading this gave me the permission I was looking for.
It's so difficult for me to "leave my children alone". They've been in my daily life for so long, especially this particular daughter, that it feels foreign and unreal to me. It just hurts. I am close to tears at any given moment, but I fight the urge and pray instead. I've been disconnected and I've never been one to let go that easily. But I will do it if this is what she needs from me right now. I love her and I know she loves me, but we are going through an obstacle in our relationship where distance is almost necessary.
In trying not to focus on this issue, I find myself obsessing about it instead. Just try to tell yourself not to think about something. That's the first place your mind goes. I'm sorry, daughter. I really am trying.
Most Assuredly Blessed,
Me
Ur daugter asking for space is a great thing! That means there's still hope and love there. I really hope u honor her request. Cuz even the greatest, purest of love needs space and air to breathe, live, and thrive.
ReplyDeleteI am honoring her request, Amy, because I love her and would do anything I can do to bridge the gap that exists between us. She needs time to process and work through some things and doesn't need me to push my way in when I'm the one who is the problem. Thank you for the encouragement.
ReplyDeleteActually, in her asking me to give her space does give me hope that there is a chance our relationship can be restored. I saw it that way, too.
Pray that I will continue to give her space and allow her to make that first move toward reconciliation.
Prayers done
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