Mom's 10th Year Memorial

Yesterday was the 10th anniversary of my mom's death.  I have been planning to have the immediate family to gather at her grave site to share memories, etc. for some time...a time to honor her and remember her.  Many invitations had been sent out and many conversations had been had about it.  Of course, as is usually the case in Minnesota, weather had its way and we had to cancel meeting at the grave site and I quickly sent out emails to everyone that we would be meeting at Dad's instead for sharing memories and then we would go out for lunch after.

Jaci didn't show up because "she didn't want to" and we never heard from Billie.  Stephanie couldn't make it because she was relying on Jaci for her ride.  I know Jaci didn't come because she's not talking to me and actually told me that I might as well forget about this gathering as no one was planning to go anyway.  Jaci is a force to be reckoned with and she loves it.  I am a nobody and this proves it.

Thank you Debby, Jayme, Perry, Robin, and Jeremy for showing up and showing your support, for not making Grandpa sit alone on this difficult day.  I thought the others could let this immature nonsense go for one day and stop thinking about themselves, but I guess I was wrong.  Family doesn't mean anything to them anymore.  They have their own families now and we are the unfortunate hangers on...well, me, anyway.

Yes, I'm very hurt by all this.  I didn't think Jaci would sink this low with something I still don't know what set her off about.  After this...I am done.  She won.  I won't contact her again.  The only thread holding us together now are the kids.  She had made it perfectly clear that she doesn't want anything to do with me or Joel and so I will give her what she wants.  If she calls, I won't respond.  If she emails, I will delete it unread.  As far as she is concerned, she has no mother and if that makes her happy, then so be it.  I can't wait around for her to decide to "forgive" me for whatever it is I'm supposed to have done this time.